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What is a Self Discovery Menís Group?

Itís a group of men who agree to share what is essential in their lives and to witness what is essential in the lives of other men. It is not psychotherapy. The weekly meetings are confidential and supportive.

Over the long term, trust deepens within a group of men who meet weekly to share what is true for them. This trust allows men to explore, discover, and develop their unique selves in a way that is rarely possible in other environments.

Why do men join a group?

It is a place for men to explore how they honestly feel about their lives. Many men want to share their deeper thoughts and feelings with other men but do not have friends or a place where this is possible. They are looking for a supportive environment where they can explore and discover their most essential selvesóthe struggles, longings, and truths that make them who they areóand to receive feedback from other men.

Many men realize something is missing in their lives when they encounter separation, divorce, infidelities, career issues, burn out, and other painful and traumatic events.  This is time when the right support can make the difference between a strong and successful recovery and repeating mistakes all over again.

What kinds of men join a group?

The men who join a group range in age from their thirties to sixties. Race, religion, occupation, marital status and sexual orientation all vary.

What the men have in common is a desire to explore their lives in the presence of other men and a willingness to accept other men who may have different experiences and beliefs.

The diversity of a group of men adds to the wisdom that is available to each member of the group as they explore the questions that are important to them.

What topics are discussed in menís groups?

Discussion topics are determined by what each man wants to explore. Thus, the topics vary with the men in each group and evolve as the menís interests evolve. Any topic that is important to a member of the group is appropriate.

Oftentimes, a man raises an issue, thinking it only concerns him, and finds that others resonate with that issue, so it becomes a theme that the group develops over time.

Here is a partial list of topics that men discuss in groups: families, relationships, divorce, fathers, friendship, trust, love, fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, loneliness, generosity, ambition, success, burnout, failure, money, dreams, soul-work, longings, sexuality, goals, life-stories, spirituality, fantasies, personalities, authenticity, integrity, journeys, grief, healing, nature, and acceptance.

What if my issue is very specific?

Of course, each man's issue or issues are very specific to them.  Each person and each relationship is different, so even if you find a group about your specific issue, the members are going to grieve and recover differently from you. 

Some men think that if they are going through a divorce, they should be in a divorce group, or if grieving the death of a child, in a group for grieving parents, or working father, mother, relationship issues, they should be in a group to support their specific issue.  For some people, that works.  At the same time, I've seen men bring their individual issues to a general men's process group and find the support and feedback they need to respond and recover from their experience. 

For many, a general process group is a better support system, because they receive perspective and feedback from men who are having different experiences.  The added benefit is that once you recovery, you can continue in the group and receive support while pursuing you new "normal" life.

Do I have to give up my individuality to join a group?

No. These Self Discovery menís groups support and encourage the uniqueness of each member. Each member determines what he wants to explore and each decides for himself the pace and direction of that exploration. A group member may pass on discussing any topic or participating in any activity that does not feel right to them.

Are these menís groups affiliated with any religion?

No. At times, men may talk about their own spirituality or religious beliefs.

Who facilitates Self Discovery Menís Group?

Antoine Amiri facilitates the groups. Antoine practices Self Discovery Coaching using the Hakomi Method to enable individual and group clients to have more freedom in responding to longings, stress, change and life situations.

Antoine has over 15 years experience as a student and teacher of the Enneagram, a highly regarded personality profiling system.  He has held Enneagram workshops, has worked with clients as an Enneagram Coach, and  is a graduate of the Hakomi Institute of San Francisco (Now the Hakomi Institute of California). He is currently in supervision for  certification in the Hakomi Method.

Antoine also trained in group facilitation with Matrix Leadership Foundation and trained in grief counseling with the Centre for Living with Dying where he volunteered as group facilitator for several years. He is a life and business coach certified with CTI, the most reputable coaching school worldwide. He has also certified with Dr. Robert Glover's work with recovery from MNG syndrome.

Where We Meet

Self Discovery Men's Support Group has new groups forming in  San Jose (1101 S. Winchester Blvd. Suite N-265, San Jose, CA 95128) and Palo Alto (94306) in a private studio space.

South Bay Men's Groups and Hakomi Coach has easy freeway access from throughout the S.F. Bay Area and the Peninsula, including San Jose, Menlo Park, Los Gatos, Santa Clara, Campbell, Cupertino, Sunnyvale, Mountain View, Los Altos, Willow Glen, Cambrian, Milpitas, Santa Cruz, San Francisco, Palo Alto, Los Altos, Saratoga, Redwood City, Redwood Shores, Portola Valley, Woodside, Alviso, Newark, Union City, Atherton, Belmont, San Carlos, San Mateo, Boulder Creek, Morgan Hill, San Martin, Gilroy, Burlingame, Foster City and Fremont. 

Learn More About Antoine

How do I join?

To arrange a free half-hour consultation to explore whether a Self Discovery Menís Group might work for you, call 510-206-0225 or email Antoine.
One-on-one Life Coaching

Individual Life Coaching is available to provide support for men who desire more individual support and attention.

ďThis group has given me a safe place to share and work through deep issues. We learn and grow together through the most difficult trials. Because we support each other without judgment, we are all winners."

Product Manager,  
Internet Company, San Jose

South Bay Self Discovery Men's Support Group has easy freeway access from through-out Silicon Valley and the South Bay, including San Jose, Menlo Park, Santa Clara, Campbell, Cupertino, Los Gatos, Sunnyvale, Mountain View, Los Altos, Willow Glen, Milpitas, Santa Cruz, and Fremont, California
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What Men Are Saying About    Self-Discovery Men's Group

"I liked the fact that I could open up with others and listen to others.  I enjoyed working with you and feel like the others cared about me."

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"A place where I could count on being heard and not judged regardless of how I felt, what I thought  - I felt supported whether I was down and out or up.

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"Learned what it meant for me to show up as a man on this planet in these times."

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"It helped me sort out some issues I deal with on a daily basis!

"Good insights were revealed which triggered other work outside the group.

"This group confirmed how lonely men are and how hungry we all are to connect with other men. I found that most of us had very few friends to share our concerns of life."

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