What is a Self Discovery Menís Group?
Itís a group of men who agree to share what is essential in their lives and to witness what is essential in the lives of other men. It is not psychotherapy. The weekly meetings are confidential and supportive.
Over the long term, trust deepens within a group of men who meet weekly to share what is true for them. This trust allows men to explore, discover, and develop their unique selves in a way that is rarely possible in other environments.
Why do men join a group?
It is a place for men to explore how they honestly feel about their lives. Many men want to share their deeper thoughts and feelings with other men but do not have friends or a place where this is possible. They are looking for a supportive environment where they can explore and discover their most essential selvesóthe struggles, longings, and truths that make them who they areóand to receive feedback from other men.
Many men realize something is missing in their lives when they
encounter separation, divorce, infidelities, career issues, burn
out, and other painful and traumatic events. This is time
when the right support can make the difference between a strong
and successful recovery and repeating mistakes all over again.
What kinds of men join a group?
The men who join a group range in age from their thirties to sixties. Race, religion, occupation, marital status and sexual orientation all vary.
What the men have in common is a desire to explore their lives in the presence of other men and a willingness to accept other men who may have different experiences and beliefs.
The diversity of a group of men adds to the wisdom that is available to each member of the group as they explore the questions that are important to them.
What topics are discussed in menís groups?
Discussion topics are determined by what each man wants to explore. Thus, the topics vary with the men in each group and evolve as the menís interests evolve. Any topic that is important to a member of the group is appropriate.
Oftentimes, a man raises an issue, thinking it only concerns him, and finds that others resonate with that issue, so it becomes a theme that the group develops over time.
Here is a partial list of topics that men discuss in groups: families, relationships, divorce, fathers, friendship, trust, love, fear, anxiety, anger, frustration, loneliness, generosity, ambition, success, burnout, failure, money, dreams, soul-work, longings, sexuality, goals, life-stories, spirituality, fantasies, personalities, authenticity, integrity, journeys, grief, healing, nature, and acceptance.
What if my issue is very specific?
Of course, each man's issue or issues are very specific to them.
Each person and each relationship is different, so even if you
find a group about your specific issue, the members are going to
grieve and recover differently from you.
Some men think that if they are going through a divorce, they
should be in a divorce group, or if grieving the death of a
child, in a group for grieving parents, or working father,
mother, relationship issues, they should be in a group to
support their specific issue. For some people, that works.
At the same time, I've seen men bring their individual issues to
a general men's group and find the support and feedback they
need to respond and recover from their experience.
For many, a general group is a better support system, because
they receive perspective and feedback from men who are having
different experiences. The added benefit is that once you
recovery, you can continue in the group and receive support
while pursuing you new life.
Do I have to give up my individuality to join a group?
No. These Self Discovery menís groups support and encourage the uniqueness of each member. Each member determines what he wants to explore and each decides for himself the pace and direction of that exploration. A group member may pass on discussing any topic or participating in any activity that does not feel right to them.
Are these menís groups affiliated with any religion?
No. At times, men may talk about their own spirituality or religious beliefs.
Who facilitates Self Discovery Menís Group?
Antoine Amiri facilitates the groups. Antoine practices Self Discovery Coaching using the Hakomi Method to enable individual and group clients to have more freedom in responding to longings, stress, change and life situations.
Antoine has over 15 years experience as a student
and teacher of the Enneagram, a highly regarded personality
profiling system. He has held Enneagram workshops, has
worked with clients as an Enneagram Coach, and is a graduate of the Hakomi Institute of San Francisco
(Now the Hakomi Institute of California). He is currently in
supervision for certification in the Hakomi Method.
Antoine also trained in group facilitation with Matrix Leadership
Foundation and trained in grief counseling with the Centre for Living with Dying
where he volunteered as group facilitator for several years.
Where We Meet
Self Discovery Men's Support Group has new groups forming in Campbell (409 E. Campbell Ave.
Suite 220, Campbell, CA 95008) and Menlo Park (855 Oak Grove, 94025).
South Bay Men's Groups and Hakomi
Coach has easy freeway access from
through out the S.F. Bay Area and the
Peninsula, including San Jose, Menlo
Park, Los Gatos, Santa Clara, Campbell,
Cupertino, Sunnyvale, Mountain View, Los
Altos, Willow Glen, Cambrian, Milpitas,
Santa Cruz, San Francisco, Palo Alto,
Los Altos, Saratoga, Redwood City,
Redwood Shores, Portola Valley,
Woodside, Alviso, Newark, Union City,
Atherton, Belmont, San Carlos, San
Mateo, Boulder Creek, Morgan Hill, San
Martin, Gilroy, Burlingame, Foster City
To arrange a free half-hour consultation to explore whether
a Self Discovery Menís Group might work for you, call 510-206-0225 or
is available to provide
support for men who desire more individual support and attention.
ďThis group has given me a safe place to share and work through deep issues.
We learn and grow together through the most difficult trials.
Because we support each other without judgment, we are all winners."
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liked the fact that I could open up with
others and listen to others. I
enjoyed working with you and feel like
the others cared about me."
"I think what worked best for me
is that I felt comfortable to talk about
almost everything. I felt like people
are listening and caring."
"A place where I could count on
being heard and not judged regardless of
how I felt, what I thought - I felt
supported whether I was down and out or
"I really liked the meditative
exercises (be it silence, music , words)
which allowed me to become still and
"I attribute much of what I have
become over the last 5 years from being
a member of your men's group. I feel so
much more complete and positive about my
life."Learned what it meant
for me to show up as a man on this
planet in these times."
"It helped me sort out some issues I deal with on a daily basis!
"Good insights were revealed
which triggered other work outside
"This group confirmed how
lonely men are and how hungry we all
are to connect with other men. I
found that most of us had very few
friends to share our concerns of
"What worked best for me was the
container, great free and protected
space. I gained faith in the male